Possible Questions to ask Prospective Adoptive Parents

Note: These are POSSIBLE questions to ask adoptive parents that you might select as the parents for your child. You may not agree with all the questions and there may be other questions you want to ask. This is just to help you get a feel for what kind of information you might want to know.

1.) Name of prospective adoptive father / Name of prospective adoptive mother.

2.) Age of prospective adoptive father /Age of prospective adoptive mother.

3.) What state do the prospective adoptive parents live in?

4.) What religion are the prospective adoptive parents?

5.) What profession is the prospective adoptive father / What profession is the prospective adoptive mother?                                                                                 

6.) Do the prospective adoptive parents have any other children?

7.) If they do have children, are they biological, or adopted?               

8.) If adopted, why can the prospective adoptive parents not have biological children of there own?

9.) If they can have biological children, why do the prospective adoptive parents want to adopt?

10.) If the prospective adoptive parents are unable to have children of there own, what steps have they already tried?                                  

11.) How do the prospective adoptive parents family and friends feel about them adopting children?

12.) What kind of adoption are the prospective adoptive parents looking for? (open, semi open, etc)

13.) What if any compromises are the prospective adoptive parents willing to make?

14.) How does the prospective adoptive parents feel about your friends and family being involved in your decision making?

15.) Do the prospective adoptive parents have any pets?

16.) What kind of schools do the prospective adoptive parents want to enroll their “your” child in?         (private / public)

17.) How did the prospective adoptive parents meet?

18.) How long did the prospective adoptive parents date before they were married?

19.) How long have the prospective adoptive parents been married?

20.) What number marriage is this for the prospective adoptive father / What number marriage is this for the prospective adoptive mother?                         

21.) Are their any diseases that run in the prospective adoptive mom or adoptive dad's families?

22.) Are their any mental problems that run in the prospective adoptive fathers’ family / Are their any mental problems in the prospective adoptive mothers’ family?

23.) Is the prospective adoptive parents willing to financially procure for you during the duration of your pregnancy?

24.) How big is the extended family of the prospective adoptive parents?  

25.) What do the prospective adoptive parents do for holidays?

26.) What are the hobbies of the prospective adoptive father / What are the hobbies of the prospective adoptive mother?

27.) How much contact do the prospective adoptive parents want before the child is born?

28.) Do the prospective adoptive parents want to be in the delivery room with you when the baby is born? (If you are comfortable with this)

29.) Are the prospective adoptive parents willing to give you the type of contact you want after the birth of the baby? (Such as visits, pictures, videos, letters, etc)

 Special thanks to Dax who shared most of these questions with us.