April's Page

                      About April:
                        My name is April Haberman and I am 19 years old. 
                             Right now, I am a night cook.  My child’s name is Nickolas
                        and our adoption is very open. I am not married, but I have wonderful boyfriend, Michael. He is not Nickolas' birthdad. 
                                       My hobbies and interests are scrapbooking, reading,
                 writing poetry, and seeing Nickolas.

                                      

          April's Story

I found that I was pregnant the day before my birthson, Nickolas, was born. He ended up being born a month and 2weeks early. I never gained any weight - I actually lost weight. I kept going to the doctors and they did the urine test and it came back negative and everything was normal with me. 

When I found out I was very excited and then Nickolas decides to come the next day and the birthfather and I  didn't have anything for him so he is the one that mentioned adoption and I said yeah let’s check into it. I am no longer with Nickolas' birthdad. After we broke up Nickolas' birthfather decided that he id not want to go and see Nickolas anymore and I told him it was his loss. The guy that I am with now, Michael, cares deeply for Nickolas, and Nickolas cares for him too. My friends and family didn't find out about Nickolas until he was about 3months old and already placed for adoption. When they found they where pretty upset but then we explained to them why we did it and most of them understood and I found out who my true friends are the ones who stuck by my side.  Our families get to go and have visits with Nickolas too so they really enjoy spending the time they can with him.  What really made us choose adoption was that we were lucky enough to find that my 3rd cousin was looking to adopt which I  had no clue that they were looking to adopt. I found them because they were going through the same agency that we found which was LSS and we thank God for finding them they are the best.

My feelings on adoption:

 I think that it’s good choice if you can't give the baby the best life that you want it to have. Overall I don't think that I would turn to adoption again because it hurts me way too much. After I placed my son for adoption I felt hurt and that part of my heart had been ripped out and sometimes it still feels like that for me how I deal with it is by seeing my son and by writing poems and talking to other birthmoms. Coley has helped me out a lot and I want to thank her for that. I also do scrapbooking. I am doing a scrapbook for my son of his birth family so that way he can who they all are. My son was born with Down syndrome and had to have heart surgery at 4 months old. He needs lots of medical attention. I did not give my son up because he has down syndrome or because of his medical needs. I did it because of my love for him and because I wanted him to have the best!