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Katie's Page
Meet Katie:
Katie's Story I was 14 years old when I found out I was pregnant. I was scared to tell anyone but the first people I told was the birthfather and my best friend. I was so scared to tell my mom or even let her find out. I thought she would force me to have an abortion or something. I knew she would find out sooner or later but I wanted to wait to find out what the birthfather wanted to do first before going to anyone else. The birthfather said I should go and have an abortion so that nobody would know and we could move on and forget about it all. He said he would support me through any decision I made. But that was soon to change. When my mom found out about me being pregnant she scheduled an appointment with a doctor because she wanted to know for sure. When the nurse came into the room where we were she confirmed the test was positive. I wasn't feeling very well after that and my mom though I was going to miscarry because I was sick so she took me to the clinic on May 24, 2004 to see what was wrong. The doctor did an ultrasound and said it was just the baby growing and my body adjusting to the hormonal changes. That day I found out I was already 2 months pregnant. I went home and called the birthfather and told him about what happened at the doctor's appointment and my due date. I was due on his birthday January 2, 2005. A couple days after finding out my due date I looked into adoption. I called an agency called A Child's Hope and they sent me information in the mail and a day or so later a social worker came and we discussed the pros and cons of adoption and what adoption meant and was. After meeting with her she wanted to meet with the birthfather and since I was still talking to him over the phone he agreed to meet me at a local restaurant. The social worker and I went to meet with him and that was the day he started to say he wasn't the father and he didn't care what I did. He said he wouldn't sign any papers until the baby was born. I didn't hear from him again until a couple weeks before I delivered and he talked to my mom and told her he wanted to keep the baby and we (me and him) could raise the baby together. He didn't call back after that to see how the baby was or anything. That was the last time I had heard from him. My family was
disappointed and mad at me. My mom was the only one who would even look
or talk to me for 5½ months. They said it was my fault and they didn't
want to be apart of it. I expected their reaction because my family isn't
too fond of my relationship with the birthfather. My friends reactions
was a lot different. They all told me I should keep the baby and not even
consider giving him up. I heard everyday at school how I would be a bad
parent if I placed him up for adoption. My I now feel adoption is a wonderful thing that is out there because it allows those that aren't ready to parent to give their children two parents that have been waiting for that baby for a long time. I wouldn't change anything that happened in my adoption plan because I found two wonderful people that will love and care for my son as much as I do. I will still have that chance to see and watch him grow and that to me is the greatest gift of all. After my son was placed I felt and still do feel sad. I wish so much my son was home with me and I could just hold him again. He is my life and I can't believe he was here for a short period of time and then he had to leave. I know what I am feeling is part of the grieving period and that what I did was the hardest but yet the most wonderful thing I could ever do.
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